How is it that someone can lose a limb and live a more fulfilled life than they had prior, while at the same time we hear about people committing suicide a few years after winning the lottery?
Trying to be happy is a lot like trying to be a colour. When did a colour become itself? How did it go about it? Is there a step-by-step process? Can a colour read a self-help book on itself to become a better colour?
Confused? Don’t sweat it – we’re partially being cheeky – just hear us out.
Thanks to our friends at Crayola, we can define colour as:
“…the aspect of things that is caused by differing qualities of light being reflected or emitted by them. To see colour, you have to have light. When light shines on an object some colours bounce off the object and others are absorbed by it. Our eyes only see the colours that are bounced off or reflected.“
What we’re trying to get at is a colour doesn’t “achieve” itself. Red doesn’t learn how to be red. It IS red. It’s also every other colour you can think of – it just depends how an object chooses to reflect or absorb light.
We’re already happy – we ARE what we want. Just as light has the complete potential to be every colour – we ourselves have the complete potential to be every thought, feeling and emotion we can experience.
Now in order to act, feel and become who we choose, we need to place focus on absorbing and reflecting the proper thoughts and emotions, which if we’re being honest – can sometimes feel like being bombarded with an endless, irrational hurricane of behaviour and choices. Thanks Universe…
The whole concept of happiness can be an ambiguous thing to describe. It’s often illustrated in a way that sounds like you can just pick it off the shelf at your local store but each time finding it’s out of stock.
Happiness is not something you find, purchase or think about – it’s something you are. It’s something you cultivate through habits, connection, progress and experience. Garnering the right perceptions, absorbing and reflecting the proper thoughts and always being aware of the choices you make, good or bad.
It’s also crazy that a lot of the time we don’t even know how happy we were until something bad happens! We think to ourselves, “I was happy and I didn’t even know!?” Happiness is not some majestic Unicorn that will make you go blind from complete and utter bliss – it’s simply a state of living full, aware and with intent.
It’s like asking someone if you’re cool or not. Chances are if you have to ask – you already have a wedgie.
Life is a colouring book, we are the crayons and we have an unlimited amount of colours to choose from. Get to work, doodle some cool shit and stop looking at what others are drawing. This isn’t a frigin’ contest.